Where Did My Libido Go?

Where Did My Libido Go?

A Masterclass in Desire, Disconnection, and Coming Back to Yourself

You do not feel broken.

You feel gone.

Gone from your body.
Gone from your desire.
Gone from the woman you used to be.
The one who laughed without second-guessing, touched without freezing, and felt deeply instead of moving through life on autopilot.

And the hardest part is this.

You cannot explain it.

Not to your partner.
Not to your doctor.
Not even to yourself.

Because this is not just about sex.
It is about silence.
It is about how long you have been functioning while quietly disappearing.

If you have ever laid beside someone you love and whispered, “What happened to me?”
This book is your answer.

What This Book Is

Where Did My Libido Go? is a deeply intelligent, emotionally precise guide for women who are still showing up in their lives, but no longer feel fully present in their bodies, their relationships, or themselves.

This is not a sex manual.
This is not a hormone checklist.
This is not a fix-it-yourself or a perform-better prescription.

This is truth-telling.
This is a reckoning.
This is a return.

Written for the high-functioning woman who has done everything “right” and still feels disconnected, this book names what has gone unnamed for far too long.

It does not rush you.
It does not shame you.
It does not ask you to override your body.

It asks you to listen.

Inside This Book, You Will Explore

• Honest inner-voice reflections that finally put language to the thoughts you have been carrying quietly and often alone

• The Delusion Loop and the Translation Table, practical frameworks that change how you understand emotional shutdown, conflict, apologies, resentment, and relational fatigue

• Guided journal prompts, voice-memo reflections, and grounding practices designed to meet you in numbness, grief, anger, confusion, and awakening

• A full-body reframe of desire, not as performance or obligation, but as safety, presence, self-connection, and nervous system trust

• Clear insight into libido loss, emotional erasure, invisible labor, relational exhaustion, and the grief of becoming someone you do not recognize

This book does not ask you to want more sex.
It asks you to hear what your body stopped saying when silence felt safer.

Self-Reflection: Where Did My Libido Go?

This is not a test.
It is a mirror.

You are not being measured.
You are being understood.

When was the last time you wanted intimacy because you genuinely felt it in your body?
Recently
A few months ago
I honestly cannot remember
I am not sure I ever truly have

Do you ever find yourself hoping intimacy will be over quickly, even with someone you love?
Never
Occasionally
More than I want to admit
That has become normal

Which thoughts have visited you lately?
☐ I miss the old me
☐ Maybe something is wrong with me
☐ I feel touched out and shut down
☐ I do not know what I want anymore
☐ If I fake it, maybe they will not notice

Do you feel resentment, anger, or invisibility that you cannot fully explain?
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Constantly, and I do not talk about it

Have you said “I’m just tired” when the truth felt heavier than that?
No
Once or twice
More times than I can count
That is how I protect myself

When you think about your body right now, what is your first feeling?
Gratitude
Indifference
Disconnection
Shame, tension, or sadness

What would it mean to feel alive and connected again, emotionally and physically?
A nice bonus
A hope I have let go of
A full-body reset
Everything

What Your Answers May Be Revealing

This is not about how much you want sex.
It is about how much of yourself you have been quieting in order to keep functioning.

Mostly A’s
You are coping well, but reconnection now can prevent deeper numbness later.

Mostly B’s
You are drifting. Your body has been whispering. It is time to listen.

Mostly C’s
You are not cold. You are emotionally unplugged. This book helps you reconnect safely.

Mostly D’s
You have been gone from yourself for too long. This book is your invitation back.

What This Book Ultimately Offers

Not a fix.
Not a formula.
Not pressure to perform.

But permission.

Permission to stop pretending you are fine.
Permission to name what you lost.
Permission to come home to your body without shame.

Your libido is not gone.
It stepped back when you did.

This is not about becoming who you were before.
It is about meeting yourself where you are now.

And beginning again, with honesty, safety, and self-respect.